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This incident of sexual child abuse (CSA), in the backyard of Punjab’s mega city Lahore, has created a storm in the country. So far, Chief Minister Shahbaz Sharif has ordered a judicial inquiry and some 22 FIRs of the case have been registered with the Ganda Singh police. Also, 10 culprits have been identified and seven arrested.
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Sahil, a non government organisation working on CSA, released its annual publication Cruel Numbers 2013. In this report, the organisation stated that child abuse has significantly increased over the past few years. The total number of sexual abuse cases in 2014, stand at a staggering 3,508, of which 2,141 are girls and 1,367 boys. Shockingly, it brings the cheap Canada Goose number of abused children to 10 per day. This figure also shows an increase of 17 per cent from the last year.
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Amira’s fear is justified. CSA occurs because the abuser believes himself to be and is in reality more powerful than the victim.
The nature of the abuse, the duration of it, the circumstances around it and the child’s relationship to the abusers can all impact how the child processes the abuse and his or her ability to move beyond it. Experts agree that parents can play a crucial role in ensuring their child’s safety. They must accept that the menace of child sexual abuse is prevalent and must take precautionary measures to prevent it. They must talk to them about good, bad and secret touch without feeling embarrassed.
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She further stresses that the more we address this issue openly and boldly, the more steps we will be able to take to protect our children. For example, «there are countries where if an adult has a record of abusing a child, that person cannot be part of any organisation or institution, which involves looking after children. This, of course, uk canada goose requires that more cases are disclosed and prosecuted effectively and we develop canada goose clearance sale systems to make these records public.».